Hola, I am an almost single mother of three. I’m in my early 30’s and have found that blogging is similar to antidepressants in how it seems to be something positive and somewhat action based in a time defined by way to much waiting for something to happen.
The Bad News: I found out in the early hours of the morning of April 2nd that my husband of 8 years had been sexually abusing my middle child. My preteen daughter. It is by far the most traumatic, and life changing event my children and myself have ever endured. I hope to chronicle the effects as well as the reality of this brutal crime committed on my family by the one person we looked to for safety and love. I hope to depict the emotional roller coaster of our devastating journey to as honestly as possible.
The Good News:
I have a lot more to say that has nothing to do with my families trauma. In fact, I got so much to blog about that there is sure to be something of interest to everybody. Its like the Garage Sale of Blogs. Or maybe a flea market blog dog. Or maybe you’ll just leave feeling like my brain just vomited on you.
So put your smile on and feel free to browse about. d(•√•)b
Also, pretty pretty pretty please leave me some feedback. You can do that by clicking like on a post, leaving a comment on a post, and for crying out loud… subscribe to my blog already. RSS or email, either/or both.
- its a new year. thankfully!
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You are brave. You are beautiful. You are the kind of woman that inspire me to put my one foot in front of the other, but with a little more hop. I would rather be in the category of you as a mom, my life always emulating “I’d rather be a perfect failure than an easy success.”
Kudos.
Miss Obvious.
Thank you kindly, I assure you that I wouldn’t consider myself brave. I actually sought refuge on wordpress because I found out very quickly that the torment my children and myself are suffering through are not welcomed subjects to speak about on facebook…amongst my “friends”. And I could only hope and pray that my example is an inspiration to my children. The lesson being: protect and love yourself and your children enough to never accept any form of abuse from someone in your life, even if it is your husband, father, mother, siblings, friends ect…
Ps, your last sentence is a powerful one. One worthy to live by.
“I’d rather be a perfect failure than an easy success”
I think I may quote you on that soon. Its remarkable. Xoxo
Part of me is ashamed that after all I have endured in my own life, I couldn’t get through HALF the last article on research to stop predators, much less be a victim. The other part of me knows as a mother, I would use the same voice to defend and heal my family, despite the controversy. But, when I see your actual face, a blond beautiful woman in her 30’s, divorced, a mother, facing tragedy, I see myself. It gives a face to this injustice, and for you, I will open my eyes and finish that article, no matter how sick I feel. You are brave, raw, beautiful, and your willingness to be in a fish bowl makes me not just a better wtiter. You make me a better woman. I will not fall asleep one more night forgetting to say what I continually promise myself I will say every time the email closes. Good night and thankyou.
Lily,,,glad you found me so I could find you…its been a long weekend so I don’t have the brain power right now to dive into your blog….however, I’m moved so much just by the intro that I had to say hello….Your situation must be hell, its not one I’ve encountered but your response to it is golden….you should be so proud and my goodness, what an awesome mother you are….will read more soon…
Thank you for such kind compliments. I hope you find something on my blog that piques your interest and I will be reading your blog as well. From what i’ve read so far it seems as though you’ve lived through some pretty hard times yourself and appear to be a brave soul who has weathered some tough storms in life. I appreciate your ability to write and share your story with such candor. Your posts are very moving and we seem to have a lot in common when it comes to the emotional struggles we are trying to navigate. I hope to hear from you again soon and thanks again for such a kind comment.
Lily
Thank you Little L, your words mean a lot to me and im so appreciative of such a wonderful compliment. I think every parent struggles to be the best parent possible and here and there can even question ourselves and decisions while raising our children, so its nice to hear that I might be on the right track after all.
Thank You Kindly,
Lily
As it sounds like you are finding, there is recovery for families who experience trauma. Congratulations for confronting it and walking through that painful journey that so many can only deny exists. You are not alone, and your voice gives strength to others.
Finding recovery slowly but finding it none the less. Thanks you for your support and reassurance that I dont have to walk this road alone. Maybe someday, hopefully not to long from now, my voice can offer a bit of strength to someone in need much like yours has for me.
Thank You,
Lily
Lily- I applaud your quick action in protecting your child and your dedication to educating others about sexual predators. I was abused for many years as a young girl and have always wished I had the courage (then) to say something to my mother. As an adult, I have started to look for ways to do what you are doing. Thank you.
Bella, it hasnt been easy but its the only way I know and hope that sharing our story will result in some degree of public awareness. It’s certain to take nothing short of a miracle to start seeing the kind of change that makes a difference. But I will be praying the whole way.
Thank you for sharing your story with me and all who may read this.
Sincerely
Lily
Thank you for starting this blog and sharing your experiences with others. I have a friend who went through a very similar situation, and she has done a fantastic job raising four children on her own, rescuing them from abuse. You are a hero to them and others for standing up to this perverted injustice–remember that when you’re having a dark day!
2nd Corinthians 4:8 says that we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed. Why? Because our Father is infinitely bigger than every problem we face and He is keeping score. He can give you the strength to continue to be the rock your children need. Your story may evolve into advocacy for countless others in similar situations– His best works of art are made from broken pieces.
Pain has a way to make you stronger,unfortunate the way you and your family has to sacrifice trusts to insure safety.I believe some of the closest families have endured unbelievable circumstances and I am sure you are a very strong caring mother that can guide your children through this undeserved storm.May you find peace where you can and bring love everywhere you go.