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My dad is an abusive alcoholic…

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bonesandpetals asked: first and foremost, this blog is absolutely beautiful.
what i’ve been through is minor in comparrison to most peoples story, but reguardless its still chil abuse. my dads an abusive alcoholic and is hooked on various drugs, for my entire childhood he negelected my brother and i, until about two years ago. he now swaps between hitting my brother and threatening me, to telling us he loves us entirely and our mother couldnt care less because we’re unimportant to her.

i think the people that are telling you to stop talking about child abuse are narrow-minded, and pathetic. people should know about whats going on around them, and i have so much respect for making this blog. keep at it, no matter what anyone says<3

Thank you for being brave & sharing your story. Have you done anything about the abuse?

and…THANK YOU!

much love & support

xx

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Just maybe, if I’m lucky, I’ll die.

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Anonymous asked: I walk away every time he tries to hug me. Every time he gets close to me, I squirm away. He hasn’t touched me. But he makes me feel uncomfortable. I take the blade that’s in my bathroom and I hold it to my wrist. I pray that maybe, this time, I’ll cut too deep and not have to deal with this anymore.
Just maybe, if I’m lucky, I’ll die.

 

Oh, please don’t do that! You are so worth being alive. Tell somebody that he makes you uncomfortable, he should be the one hurting for it, not you. You deserve to live without wanting to die & having to deal with this. You shouldn’t have to choose between being afraid or death. You don’t have to.

much love!

xx

 

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Is it sexual abuse if…

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Anonymous asked: is it sexual abuse if a girl made me touch her?

Yes, it is.

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List of personality traits

List of Personality Traits

Personality Traits List of Personality Traits

List of Personality Traits
Positive Negative
accepts authority, loyal, devoted rebellious
accepts what’s given ignores, rejects what’s given
affectionate distant, cold, aloof
Ambitious, motivated self-satisfied, unmotivated
aspiring self-satisfied
candid closed, guarded, secretive
caring uncaring, unfeeling, callous
change; accepts, embraces it rejects change
cheerful cheerless, gloomy, sour, grumpy
considerate, thoughtful inconsiderate, thoughtless
cooperative uncooperative, unhelpful, combative
courageous cowering, fearful
courteous rude, impolite
decisive indecisive
devoted uncommitted, uncaring, hostile
determined indecisive, unsure
does what is necessary, right does what is convenient
perseveres, endures relents, gives up
enthusiastic unenthusiastic, apathetic, indifferent
expansive kept back, tight, constricting
faith in life life can’t be trusted
faith in oneself lack of faith in self
faith in others others can’t be relied on
flexible inflexible, rigid, unbending, stubborn
forgiving unforgiving, resentful, spiteful
focused unfocused, scattered
freedom given to others authoritarian, controlling
friendly unfriendly, distant, aloof, hostile
frugal, thrifty Wasteful, spendthrift
generous stingy, miserly, selfish
goodwill ill-will, malice, hatred
grateful ungrateful, unappreciative
hard-working lazy
honest dishonest, deceiving, lying
humble arrogant, conceited, ego-centric
interested indifferent, uncaring
involved complacent, indifferent
jealous, not jealous, envious, covetous
kind unkind, uncaring, cruel, mean
mature immature
modest vain
open-minded, tolerant narrow, close, small-minded, intolerant
optimistic pessimistic
perfects allows imperfection
persistent, sustaining flagging, fleeting, unsustaining
practical impractical, not viable
punctual late, not on time
realistic naïve, impractical
reliable unreliable, undependable
respectful disrespectful, rude, impolite
responsibility, takes blames others
responsible unreliable, undependable
responsive unresponsive, unreceptive
self-confident lack of self confidence, insecure
self-directed directed by externals
self-disciplined undisciplined, unrestrained, indulgent
self-esteem, high self-esteem, confidence – low
self-giving self-centered
self-reliant dependent
selfless selfish
sensitive Insensitive, indifferent
serious silly, trivial, petty
sincere insincere, dishonest
social independence social approval required
sympathetic unsympathetic, unfeeling
systematic unsystematic, disorganized, disorderly, random
takes others point of view insists on own view
thoughtful towards others thoughtless, inconsiderate, callous
trusting suspicious, mistrusting
unpretentious pretentious, affected, ostentatious
unselfish selfish
willing does, willingness stubborn, unwilling, reluctant
work comes first convenience first

RhymeZone: character

http://www.rhymezone.com/r/rhyme.cgi?Word=character&org1=syl&org2=l&org3=y&typeofrhyme=rel

3 words that encompass a future…

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Different than today.

Wtf is this…

Just after I published my previous post on it simultaniously being National Employees Appreciation Day and Panic Day I got a surprise video pop-up.

Under the video it said: What do you think of this and also said once I see a video pop-up I would never see it again.

Ummmmm, the panic is setting in, seriously, WTF!

Physical vs. Mental Attractiveness

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Reblog from Mark and Angel Hack life

Well, Angel and I don’t need this because she’s perfect… But for the rest of my friends, here’s a little chart to ease the difficulty of determining whether or not your significant other is worth the extra effort. Enjoy yourselves.

The “Uncertainty” Effect | Big Questions Online

Evolution
The “Uncertainty” Effect | Big Questions Online.

The “Uncertainty” Effect

Reminding people that they can’t always control the outcomes of situations decreases their belief in Darwinian evolution.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

In his latest blog posting, Tom Rees looks at a recent study that showed how reminding students about their lack of control over life’s outcomes can affect their belief in Darwin’s theory of evolution (with an emphasis on randomness), as well their views on “intelligent design” (which posits a controlling God) and Simon Conway Morris‘ theory of evolution, labeled CMTE (which frames the process as “orderly and predictable,” but without a controlling external agent):

Without the “loss of control” priming, almost none of them approve of ID—or, for that matter, CMTE.
But when primed to feel loss of control, the students were much more likely to prefer either ID or CMTE (although still a large majority accepted evolution).
So the students seem to compensate for their feeling of anxiety and uncertainty induced by their loss of control by turning to theories about life that reassure them that there is some kind of plan in place.
All this may help explain why evolution is unpopular in parts of the world where life is full of uncertainty. And it might help explain why religion and rejection of evolution so often go hand in hand. Both are tools that provide compensatory control.
The researchers have a graph to illustrate the effect:

And they conclude in their paper that:
although it has been argued that science and religion are fundamentally opposed explanations of life … , it seems that they can be deployed interchangeably to restore order … . As we have seen in this study, framing Darwin’s Theory of Evolution as depicting an orderly and predictable process reduced the need to bolster belief in a supernatural agent. In other words, increases in religious belief under threat are nullified when other (even science-based) options to restore order are present. To conclude, because of its emphasis on random processes the theory of evolution in its original form will in all probability continue to spark controversy around the world, especially in uncertain times.
 

Article By:

Heather Wax: Science + Religion Today

Heather Wax has been covering issues at the intersection of science and religion since 2003 and spent three years as the features editor of Science & Spirit magazine.

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No Longer A Victim has A Place For Survivors

Image via Wikipedia Someone I love was abused. They chose to stop their personal hell, and came out & became a hero, a survivor. Them being so courageous and coming forward caused more people I know to acknowledge or confess … Continue reading

The UGLY REALITY of Verbal Abuse

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Verbal abuse is probably the most common form of abuse. Its also the most overlooked, misunderstood, and socially accepted form of abuse. The image is a great visual to the real pain and damage verbal abuse can cause.

Sometimes… I Cry Until I Can’t BREATHE!

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Sometimes… I Cry Until I Can’t BREATHE!

Bittersweet

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Today was absolutely a Bittersweet day. It was a DSS court day so going in I already knew I would walk out in a funk regardless of what the court had to say. There really is nothing about this process that gives me peace. It has, since day 1, felt like a no win situation. Even if the small victories offer a bit of relief, that relief is always accompanied by sorrow. I guess you could say it was a good day in hell. Dss has stepped out of the picture and the court ordered that I have full custody of the my children and that my husband remain under the restraining order and is to have no contact. This was all based on the sex offender assessment and therapy plan he had to do. The court also ordered that he would have to seek custody privately and only after the doctor who is overseeing his therapy and treatment plan has determined that he is no longer a risk to the children. They said that it was not the doctors/therapist recommendation at this time to reunite him and the children. Its my understanding that he has to continue therapy and has been required to complete it before he can seek any kind of reunification. Bittersweet…my youngest child is not a direct victim of his crime but she is indeed a victim of his actions, this will be painful for her.

The good news: it may be a turning point for me. For the first time since april 2, 2010 I can honestly say that I’m starting to look forward with guarded hope (but hope none the less) as opposed to viewing my life in rewind. I can’t say that I won’t be looking back anymore, but maybe not as much as I’ve become accustomed to.

The Art of the Compliment | Psychology Today

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There is only one way to receive a compliment —graciously, with a smile.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200403/the-art-the-compliment

Parataxic Distortion

Process of perception, approach and framework ...

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Parataxic Distortion:

The inclination to skew perceptions of others based on fantasy. The “distortion” is in the perception of others, based not on actual experience with the individual but from a projected fantasy personality.

My thanks to a fellow Logophile for passing this word along.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parataxic_distortion