Category Archives: CHEERS

At Christmas play and make good cheer, for Christmas comes but once a year.” ~Thomas Tusser~

Gun Safety and Self Defense Training was Absolutely Awesome

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Hows my form...maybe something I could work on 😉

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My grip looks good though

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I got a great score

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Because I had a great instructor...whos a bit of a hottie! 😉

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On missing, longing for, the little things

After reading the article below, it became shocking clear to me how much I miss and desperately long for the little things that make a marriage/intimate relationship so fullfilling.

In my marriage, my husband was the strong one who carried the weight of the families safety and security (as I perceived it incorrectly during the marriage, in theory more than reality due to the physical and emotional harm he actually had caused) on his shoulders. He was a very loving and nurturing partner and father and always an outstanding provider.

Whenever he would get sick, like a minor cold, or stepped on a rock that bruised his heel, or witnessed someone that was sick and sure he was coming down with something fatal like dengue fever, malaria, or west nile virus, lol, I happily and lovingly tended to my sick and on the verge of death spouse’s every need. And I did so happily and lovingly as it was one of the very few times I could be his source of comfort and his strength and backbone. I loved to care for him when he was struck with a “killer cold”. It gave me the chance to be his everything.

The other situation that I always came through for him was our Snake/Spider agreement. I handled any encounter with snakes for him as he was deathly afraid of them and he in return handled any spider encounters for me due to my insane arachnophobia. Btw, I think I may have saved him from more snake encounters as in our line of work we seemed to come across a lot. It made me feel incredible useful.

Being single now for almost two years has brought to the surface some emotions about the little things that I loved about being married. I miss that kind of closeness and long to feel and be that role for someone once again.

The bottom line is, I miss being in love. I miss have a partner to walk through life with and yes, I miss making soup for my guy who has a cold and kissing his forehead. I miss picking out the very best kleenex for him so his nose doesn’t become as red as rudolphs. I miss being tender and affectionate and have tenderness, affection, and love showed to me.

I miss the little things that create a bond between two people and sharing my life with someone. I miss love.

A Couple’s Worst Nightmare: The Common Cold – DivineCaroline

http://www.divinecaroline.com/22077/124497-couple-s-worst-nightmare-common-cold

Watch “Billy Joel- She’s got a way” on YouTube

Secondary Survivors Support Group

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I’ve found out that there is a Secondary Survivors Support Group in my area. There are support groups for the Primary survivors as well but it seems like its for adult survivors. I’m gonna go to this meeting and hopefully they will know if or where I can find a group for teen survivors for my daughter to attend.
She participated in group therapy with about four girls her age at the end of her year long one on one councelling. She really loved the group therapy because she met and bonded with a few girls who knew exactly what it feels like to be a CSA survivor. Truth is, its great to have support of any kind but its different when you have the benefit of support from people who’ve suffered the same trauma as you. They have experienced the same roller coaster of complex emotions and have thought the same thoughts that are unique to your shared traumatic experiences.
This is what I’ve been searching for. Others out there like me who have lived through the same unfortunate kind of trauma that I can connect with and maybe even start to find some healing.
Hopefully the group that meets weekly in my area is the first step in the right direction towards finding some peace, the light at the end of the tunnel that I’ve been searching for so long for.

Perceived Privacy

Perceived Privacy

Over the past year I’ve followed a blog called Raptitude. David, the author of the blog, publishes a new article on the average of about 1 every week or so. Almost as soon as he posts a new article I’ve found myself eagerly waiting with anticipation for his next bit of genius to post to my Pulse reader. I have a few favorites that really resonated with me. Some have even changed the way I tend to view and even interact with the world. I will add links to my favorite Raptitude articles at the end of this post for anyone interested.

Today I was pleased to find my Pulse reader had a new Raptitude article, of which I quickly devoured every word. It is again an article that delivers insight and perspective on the day to day happenings of a large part of the human race that is an interesting perspective to say the least. I hope you read it as well as take some time to dig around the Raptitude website, as there is sure to be something that everyone can relate to and enjoy reading.

 

You are a public figure

New Year’s Eve, for the first time, I had an alarming moment when I realized spaceships really were watching me through the ceiling. They knew where I was in the house. I was troubled by it and said so to my friend, but by midnight I forgot, and felt much better.

Rewind a week or two. I was taking adorable pictures of my toddler nephew typing on his grandmother’s iPad, when I had one of those bewildering, revelatory moments.

I realized I was photographing a member of the first generation that will be able to revisit its entire life in sparkling, high resolution. Between me, his parents and his grandmother, there are easily more photos of him than there have been days in his life.

His brother is six months now. In 2081, when they’re both old men, they’ll be able to access their childhood in extraordinary detail. They’ll see their first Christmases, their first bike rides, their graduations and wedding days all in high resolution images and HD video, and it might seem strange to them that previous generations did not have much access at all to their pasts, aside from memories and a few grainy photographs.

Contrast that with my father, (1947-2008) of whom I’ve only seen one or two pictures of as a child. In those pictures he’s someone I don’t know. He has a smooth sepia face that could belong to just about anyone except my dad. He wore a moustache from the day I was born to the day he died and I couldn’t recognize my father in any other face.

The kids born after about 2007 constitute the first generation that’s younger than Facebook. Today, it’s fairly normal for human beings make their first appearance on the internet when they are less than a week old. Think of how many newborn photos you’ve seen posted by your Facebook friends this last year.

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David also sites this article  which was written by a fellow wordpresser about 4 years ago. What then seemed kinda Jetsons-esque then, now is very close to reality. Interesting.

Here are some of my favorite Raptitude articles:

What we refer to as happiness is really just what the absence of suffering feels like.

 

Defeated, I stood on the mat and let the cold air flood over me. I watched the ice fog pour over the sill like freezing smoke. I just let it have its way with me. I didn’t get mad at it, I didn’t shiver or scramble to dry off. I just let it feel like whatever it was going to feel like, and noticed something peculiar.

It didn’t hurt me.

Life is uncertain by its very nature.  Except for this:No matter what is happening right now,
It will never happen again.

Why should *I* be forced to help someone else?

Here’s why:

Because you’re better off if other people aren’t suffering so much.

life is the present only. The past is thoughts in the present. The future is thoughts in the present. You can argue all you want that the past “existed”, but the notion of something having existed is also just a thought in the present.

 

 

The Top Ten Words of 2011

While stumbling around the interwebs I came across a pretty interesting website

http://www.lifeslittlemysteries.com/2016-top-words-2011.html

And I thought this lil article was kinda interesting being a word lover and all. I figured I’d share the website with you as well as the list the site deemed as the top words of 2011. Fyi, the article has inspired me to create my own list of my personal top ten words of 2011, and maybe even share my personal definitions and/or my immediate immpression of the words meaning before reading the given definition. Note: some of my definitions may not be socially acceptable and could even be viewed as insensitive. So I say, what the FRACK, I’m going for it anyway.

1. Occupy —The preferred verb of protesters occupies the top spot this year. Not only has “occupy” risen to fame because of the Occupy Movement (Occupy Wall Street, Occupy Oakland, etc.), it is also used in the context of the occupation of Iraq and the so-called “Occupied Territories.”

{OCCUPY- aka PIE-EYED. This would be the cartooned pics of a cartoon character who sees the warm fresh baked pie sitting in a window to cool and they suddenly have pie slices drawn in their eyes which divulge their intentions. This can, and does happen to us humans, minus the sketched in pie slice, but don’t doubt that the brain of said victims has shifted into ME WANT PIE mode.The hyper-focused individual is now considered to be OCCUPIED.}

2. Deficit —Fiscal deficits are a growing and possibly intractable problem for many economies in the developed world, and have become a frequent topic of discussion.

3. Fracking —Hydraulic fracturing, a controversial method of extracting fossil fuels from otherwise unreachable places , has turned into a hot-button issue dividing ultra-capitalists and environmentalists.

{My personal definition of the word Fracking is definitely used as a softened form of a pretty common cuss word.}

4. Drone —An ever-increasing number of remotely piloted aircraft are being used for reconnaissance and attack purposes, especially to target wanted terrorists .

{A DRONE is similar to a zombie. DRONE would be a description of the way a drugged out person acts, looks, behaves. Its the stereotypical look of one who’s high and completely zoned the FRACK out. Combining the words Drug-Prone and or Drugged-Out-Zone… zone being the individuals state of mind, not the location of which said DRONE gets the drugs or even does the drugs. However, after second thought I suppose the term works for those descriptions just as well.}

5. Non-veg —A meal served with meat. The term originated in India (where “veg” is the norm), and is now catching on worldwide.

{NON-VEG’ers are the baby Boomer generation. They are, in my opinion, the last generation of people to be typically hard working honest citizens. Every generation after that are suffering the devastating consequences of their hard work. Face it, a neverending supply of Doritos, video games, more free time to focus on cartoons and less on unpleasant chores and such has caused a multitude of epidemics with today’s youth. Baby boomers, your unconditional love and affection is gonna be the downfall of society, haha, of course I’m just kidding on this one.}

6. Kummerspeck —This German word, which literally translates as “grief bacon,” refers to excess weight gained from emotional overeating. This year, it worked its way into the English-speaking world.

{Ok, embarrassingly I can’t detail this one but I will tell you it has something to do with watching to many crime dramas like CSI. Blacklight toting forensic personnel would use the term to identify the suspects body fluid evidence they’ve found which would lead to them Attaching a lovely name to the perp based on the trace evidence left behind. Kinda like “suspect or even pet name+speck = petname+body fluid}

7. Haboob —A name imported from Arabic that has been used to describe the massive sandstorms in the American Southwest this year.

{A HABOOB is a person of Indian descent who owns the gas station at the end of my mothers street, who will not take manufacturer coupons for a product I regularly purchase from their store. Dammit man, cigarettes are expensive, cut a girl a break, lol}

8. 3Q —This texting shorthand for “thank you” may have arisen as a combination of the Mandarin and Japanese word for the number three, which is “san,” and Q; put together, they sound like “thank you.” The slang has been banned from official Chinese dictionaries, but is commonly found elsewhere.

9. Trustafarians —These are well-to-do youths (also sometimes called “trust-funders” or “trust fund babies”) who adopt faux-Bohemian lifestyles. A play on Rastafarians, the term first became popular as a reference to wealthy kids who took part in the London Riots .

10. (The Other) 99 —A reference to the majority of those living in Western democracies who have been left out of the dramatic rise in earnings associated with “the top 1 percent” —itself, another frequently uttered phrase. [5 Facts about the Wealthiest 1 Percent ]

***If anyone can come up with alternative definitions for any of the words I couldn’t, as well as the ones i could, than please feel free to share. I would love to read others combinaword definitions.

FYI: I’ve always called this combinawording…come to find out it actually has a real name, PORTMANTEAU.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Portmanteau

Picture courtesy of this website
http://myliteraryquest.wordpress.com/2011/03/18/fun-friday-the-portmanteau/

http://grammar.about.com/od/pq/g/portmanterm.htm

And of course Urban Dictionarys word for it…. TWORD. Lol, awesome.

http://m.urbandictionary.com/#define?term=tword

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You Are Not So Smart

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http://youarenotsosmart.com/

This is a pretty awesome website. Visit and enjoy!

Bravery is Beautiful

The image above is the property of The Star Online

Check out this astounding young ladys blog. Her story is heartbreaking. Her bravery is remarkable and her resolve to inspire change is heroic.

http://sacrilegeofthegoddess.wordpress.com/

She is a warrior in my opinion, fighting to bring awareness to an epidemic of injustices suffered by children across the world. She fights not with her fists, but her body, in beautiful dance. A dance to bring awareness to the problem of childhood sexual assault. My message to her is to stay strong. You have an amazing opportunity to inspire change and bring awareness. Who knows how many young lives will be changed for the better through your stories and sharing your dance. Though I’ve never met her, I feel a strong bond forged by similar stories we’ve endured. She’s a warrior for the young and innocent. I admire her strength and send her much love and respect.

You can also read more about her mission and her story from The Star Online.

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2011/12/29/nation/10167925&sec=nation

Facebook Status Updates From the Past

Ok, every now and again I post a status update on facebook that im particularly proud of, lol. Yes, this is me tooting my own horn but I dont do it to often so its acceptable. I happen to love the: Dear Blank, Please Blank website and have authored some of my own. Here are some of my favs from the past that I thought were a bit clever. Note: all are pertaining to frustrations i’ve encountered with using my cell phone, lol. Anywho, enjoy.

Hello Moto,

I noticed you decided to go with the “Shorter Charging Cord”. Thas cool… But really, why must you keep me on such a short leash when you already know I’m your b**ch. God, what an EGOMANIAC your turning into.

Sincerely, ♪♪Don’t want no short cord phone♪♪

This one came about from my frustration with my android phones battery life, or lack there of and how often I find myself tethered to a wall so I could use my phone.

 

Dear Cell Phone,

Yes I kiss my mother with this mouth. Key word: Mouth…not beak. I MEANT TO TYPE THAT WORD SO STOP CORRECTING MY FOUL MOUTH YOU AVIARYAPHILE.

Sincerely, I like DUCKS but not as much as you think.

I obvious have a dirty mouth (who me, never, lol) and was frustrated with my cell phone always autocorrecting my bad words for…not so bad words, lol.

 

Dear Cell Phone,

I am not nearly as fond of MILK as you’d like me to be. Ps, need I remind you that you are indeed a black cell phone. So please stop auto correcting me.

Sincerely, Commitee for Context Based Auto Corrections.

This one was because I was trying to post about MLK or Martin Luther King and everytime I wrote MLK it autocorrected to MILK and I’d have to go back and change it. lol, #whitegirlproblems

 

 

Plinky Writing Prompts

Plinky is a cool website you should check out. I think I might start adding some of my favorite prompts as posts to inspire me to write more regularly, and for anyone who visits my blog, please feel free to use any of the prompts I add on your own blog, comment on or leave feedback on any prompts I have written on or leave your link in the comments to a prompt you’ve used and written on. All feedback is fun so I hope the prompts inspire you as they are sure to inspire me.

Plinky makes it easy for you to create inspired content. Every day we provide a prompt (i.e. a question or challenge) and you answer. We make it simple to add rich media and share your answers on Facebook, Twitter and blogs.

links for the Plinky website:

http://www.plinky.com/

http://blog.plinky.com/

http://twitter.com/#!/plinky

http://twitter.com/#!/plinkyprompts

http://www.facebook.com/PlinkyDotCom

 

Enjoy!

 

 

 

And then he said…

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And then he said;

“I FUCKING LOVE YOU HOLLY!”

And then I walked away.

The Revolver- Look Closer Edition by David from Raptitude

http://www.raptitude.com/2011/07/the-revolver-look-closer-edition/

At the beginning of American Beauty, just as Lester Burnham is beginning is spectacular breakdown, the movie’s tagline can be seen behind him, pinned to the wall of his cubicle. A little white sticker reads, “Look closer.”

Photo by: Senscience
http://www.raptitude.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/roundabout.jpg

Another GREAT Post from David @ Raptitude…

Another GREAT Post from David @ Raptitude…

I can’t say this enough times, Raptitude is an amazing website full of well thought out and elegantly written posts that, if you give yourself the time to read, has the potential to a enhance your quality of time spent on this watery rock called Earth.

I will be sharing a link to his posts often but i encourage anyone who reads this to bookmark Raptitude and subscribe to the rss feed.


photo by: David Cain and the Raptitude website

The link:

The internet allows us to share a brain, sort of. You have an idea, or an understanding, and now it can be anyone’s, with no need to get a  publisher to agree that it’s worth sharing. If that idea changes the way someone lives, that change can change the way someone else lives, and that’s all culture is. Twenty years ago this medium wasn’t a part of our lives, and now we’re influencing each other at an astonishing rate. This is evolution.

http://www.raptitude.com/2011/07/the-revolver/

Making jewelry…

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This is a picture of a necklace that one of my friends is wearing. She said she’s had it for years.
I absolutely love it.
So im gonna try to recreate it.
I’ll take a picture of what i come up with.

A Post Secret share from my BFF

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A Post Secret share from my BFF.  I love my friends. They’re awesome.