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Ask me anything. I will answer.

Sometimes… I Cry Until I Can’t BREATHE!

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Sometimes… I Cry Until I Can’t BREATHE!

Bittersweet

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Today was absolutely a Bittersweet day. It was a DSS court day so going in I already knew I would walk out in a funk regardless of what the court had to say. There really is nothing about this process that gives me peace. It has, since day 1, felt like a no win situation. Even if the small victories offer a bit of relief, that relief is always accompanied by sorrow. I guess you could say it was a good day in hell. Dss has stepped out of the picture and the court ordered that I have full custody of the my children and that my husband remain under the restraining order and is to have no contact. This was all based on the sex offender assessment and therapy plan he had to do. The court also ordered that he would have to seek custody privately and only after the doctor who is overseeing his therapy and treatment plan has determined that he is no longer a risk to the children. They said that it was not the doctors/therapist recommendation at this time to reunite him and the children. Its my understanding that he has to continue therapy and has been required to complete it before he can seek any kind of reunification. Bittersweet…my youngest child is not a direct victim of his crime but she is indeed a victim of his actions, this will be painful for her.

The good news: it may be a turning point for me. For the first time since april 2, 2010 I can honestly say that I’m starting to look forward with guarded hope (but hope none the less) as opposed to viewing my life in rewind. I can’t say that I won’t be looking back anymore, but maybe not as much as I’ve become accustomed to.

EUREKA! I’ve got an idea.

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EUREKA! I’ve got an idea.

To be cont…

And now for the Cont…

Ok, so i am not the most organized chica I know and, well, neither is my blog. So, I’ve decided the best way of categorizing this sucker would be to title the categories to rhyme with the word IDEA.

Thank God for the Rhyme Dictionary and RhymeZone. I’ve pasted below a list of all the possibilities.  : )

This should be fun.

http://www.rhymezone.com/?loc=bar

http://tinyurl.com/4k72r4k

And then I got sidetracked checking out all the other cool dictionaries.

http://tinyurl.com/4fuzg6r

One last thing to note, is it odd that I wanna spend my time looking up a lot of the words like; 

mear, meir, mere, mir, myhre  …. really, five words that sound the same but have different meanings

schweer …. and don’t even pretend you don’t wanna know what in the world this word means. Im about to find out, I schweer, I would never lie to you, lol.

  Words and phrases that rhyme with dear:   (302 results)
1 syllable:
beare, beer, bere, briere, cheer, clear, cleere, crear, creer, cyr, deer, deere, ear, fear, fier, fleer, frear, freire, frere, gear, geer, gere, gier, giere, grear, greer, jeer, kear, kier, kir, kleer, kneer, lear, mear, meir, mere, mir, myhre, near, neer, nir, peer, pier, queer, rear, schear, scheer, schweer, sear, sere, shear, sheer, shere, smear, sneer, spear, speer, speir, sphere, stear, steer, steere, tear, teer, veer, vere, we’re, wier, year, zerr, zier

2 syllables:
adhere, all clear, alvear, amir, appear, austere, bahir, bashir, bassir, bear’s ear, bebear, birch beer, bock beer, bronx cheer, career, cashier, chachere, church year, chusmir, cohere, come near, dark beer, davir, desir, dornier, draw near, dyneer, each year, emir, first gear, frontier, give ear, great year, guinier, high gear, in gear, kamir, king’s spear, laimbeer, lanier, lazear, leap year, life peer, light beer, light year, low gear, mateer, mclear, mcnear, mcneer, mcteer, menear, minear, minteer, mouse deer, mouse ear, mule deer, musk deer, near beer, olear, o’lear, oneyear, orear, pap smear, per year, plenmeer, premier, premiere, puryear, rainier, red deer, revere, roe deer, root beer, rosevear, sabir, safier, sameer, samir, schenk beer, school year, severe, shamir, sincere, small beer, spruce beer, spur gear, st cyr, sun gear, termeer, third gear, unclear, up here, vanleer, vanliere, veneer, wazir, weiss beer, worm gear, yasir, zahir, zaire, zamfir, zegeer

3 syllables:
auctioneer, bandolier, barking deer, bartle frere, belvedere, bevel gear, bombardier, brigadeer, brigadier, budgeteer, burro deer, casebeer, cavalier, chandelier, charpentier, chevalier, christian year, civil year, commandeer, common year, crochetiere, crystal clear, disappear, domineer, dubilier, edward lear, engineer, exovir, fallow deer, far and near, financier, financiere, fiscal year, fishing gear, ginger beer, gondolier, holy year, inner ear, in one ear, insincere, interfere, lagardere, landing gear, last frontier, lunar year, marketeer, mctier, middle ear, munich beer, mutineer, outer ear, over here, pamphleteer, pelletier, persevere, pioneer, planet gear, porter’s beer, profiteer, racketeer, rayonier, reappear, rensselaer, second gear, solar year, souvenir, stable gear, steering gear, summiteer, time of year, to one ear, volunteer, wagoneer, water deer, whitetail deer, without fear, world premiere

4 syllables:
black marketeer, calendar year, celestial sphere, cervical smear, conventioneer, electioneer, elephant ear, elephant’s ear, every year, external ear, financial year, flight engineer, imagineer, internal ear, japanese deer, jewish new year, pere david’s deer, platonic year, reengineer, tropical year, virginia deer

5 syllables:
academic year, army engineer, bioengineer, cauliflower ear, civil engineer, differential gear, highway engineer, marine engineer, mining engineer, naval engineer, pinion and ring gear, planetary gear, political sphere, railroad engineer, sabbatical year, software engineer

6 syllables:
aerospace engineer, astronomical year, capital of zaire, vestibule of the ear

7 syllables:
automotive engineer, efficiency engineer, elasticity of shear, electrical engineer, mechanical engineer, military engineer, military volunteer

8 syllables:
aeronautical engineer, metallurgical engineer

What does your body language say about you?

A study in body language.

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I stumbled a great site about body language and figured I would share.

As we all know, communication is essential in society. Advancements in technology have transformed the way that we correspond with others in the modern world, yet when conversing face-to-face, it’s not only speech we verbalize that matters. Body language is truly a language of its own. We all have quirks and habits that are uniquely our own. What does your body language say about you? And what can you learn about others by becoming aware of what some of the signs mean?
 
I thought it would be fun to list some of the well-known signs that body language experts study and recognize. It is said that when talking to a person the information that we receive can be broken down as:

  • 10% from what the person actually says
  • 40% from the tone and speed of voice
  • 50% is from their body language.

http://tinyurl.com/248m9ut

You’ve changed so much I almost don’t recognize you anymore.

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My repsonse to him, after I realized he would never take responsibility for the pain and destruction he caused… also when I realized I was talking to a complete stranger. My husband of 10 years exists only in my memory.

Me: You denying the truth is expected but is also the worst thing you could ever do. It invalidates the pain you’ve caused to the people who loved you the most. I’m aware that the man I married and loved is no longer part of you, your being, your soul. You’re merely an empty, cold shell of the heart and soul that used to reside there. I will no longer seek an apology from you because you (my husband) are gone. Unfortunately, it also leaves you without the one chance to heal a wound in someone you once called your best friend and love. Your continued denial is hurtful as much as it is alarming. We (the victims) will get a form of justice but we will never get the one thing we long for…. ourselves back.

He failed to reply to this. This is very likely the last conversation of our relationship. How sad things end that started out so beautifully.

The picture is one taken of my husband after “April” and serves as a reminder of how different (to me) he looks. Its almost like going to a viewing to pay your last respects to a loved one. Even though you recognize the individual in front of you, they don’t look like the person you once loved. Its a deadness, a hollowness, a shell of a person deficient in spirit.

Analysis Paralysis

Analysis is Paralysis

Analysis Paralysis:

Analysis paralysis involves the over-analysis of a specific issue to the point where that issue can no longer be recognized, and the subject of the conversation is lost.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve said “why are we talking about {insert any subject} or how did we get on the subject of {anything under the sun} and what where we originally talking about”.

Stand for something.

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This is a image I snagged from my 13 year old daughters Facebook page. Its incredibly insightful and wise beyond her years. She is a survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse and she’s the bravest person I’ve ever been blessed to know. She is my HERO.

Parataxic Distortion

Process of perception, approach and framework ...

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Parataxic Distortion:

The inclination to skew perceptions of others based on fantasy. The “distortion” is in the perception of others, based not on actual experience with the individual but from a projected fantasy personality.

My thanks to a fellow Logophile for passing this word along.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parataxic_distortion